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- ipv6-only @@ -78,7 +79,6 @@ the blog's repository, so yo Here it is at one place and rendered, so it's maybe less pain to read.
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- How do you know you really are agender? What will you do if you start feeling gender? Is it just a phase?
- The label is just a way to put a name to what I feel now. And no, I don't have all the answers [9]. Using the label allows me to find other people with similar feelings, learn how they navigate possible challenges and -puts my mind at peace that I am not completely insane/broken. If my identity +puts my mind at peace that I am not completely insane/broken/alone. If my identity changes, I'll try to find comfort in another label probably. If it is just a -phase, so be it, still it probably has something I can learn about myself. -
- Does anything change about you? +phase, so be it, I can probably still learn something about myself from it. +
- Does anything else change about you?
- Yes. Apart from what I have written on this page, I realised that I do not have to follow gender stereotypes/expectations for myself, so I started experimenting more with my appearance. Confused a few people already :-D
- What if I accidentally outed you? -
- That's life, and it's not like it can be undone anyway. Since me being -agender is low-key public information anyway, it is not a big deal to me. -However, if you tell me who knows, it will help me be ready if they start -asking unexpected questions (esp. because when someone first interacts with -queer people they might be unintentionally insensitive). You can also tell the -person you outed me to that I am basically fine with them knowing, so that they -know my boundaries w.r.t. my gender. +
- That's life, and it's not like it can be undone. Since me being agender is +low-key public information anyway, it is not a big deal to me. However, if +you tell me who you've told, it will help me be ready if they start asking +unexpected questions (esp. because when someone first interacts with a queer +topic they might be unintentionally insensitive). You can also tell the +person you outed me to that I am basically fine with them knowing, so that +they don't need to metagame w.r.t. +my gender.
- What do you have between your legs?
- Not answering this one. You wouldn't ask your teacher. You wouldn't ask your
boss, you wouldn't ask your uncle and then make sure yourself. Asking such
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This is a rather sensitive topic, not just for me, but for many people who are struggling with/doubting/hiding their gender (and the doubts can return or be -persistent). While this post is not focused on other such people in -particular, I'd like you, my dear reader, to try being considerate to other -experiences/feelings similar to mine. Many other people are not in the position -they would feel safe to talk about these struggles. One of the reasons I am +persistent). While this post is not focused on other such people, I'd be glad if you, +my dear reader, try being considerate to other +experiences/feelings similar to mine. Many other people are not in a position +to feel safe talking about these struggles. One of the reasons I am writing this is because I want/need more people to try considering these challenges (and through that help spread understanding) and I am "lucky" that I can be relatively open about it, at least on the internet and in some irl @@ -333,16 +336,16 @@ groups.
[2] If you are not sure whether your question would be bad to ask, try being sensitive and tolerant and ask me anyway. And be sure I know I don't have any obligation to answer, so if I don't, respect it. (I -don't think I am likely to reject you, but still I think this boundary is -better explicitly stated.)
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@@ -373,7 +376,7 @@ paragraph just in case :-)[5] I haven't thought about what failure modes of discussion of my -gender would be, but intuitively there are some, so I am adding this + [5] I haven't thought about what failure modes of discussion my +gender could yield, but I guess some could emerge, so I am adding this paragraph just in case :-) [6] So far, being LGBTQ+ ally looks like being a safe position for me. I am not yet sure if being openly non-binary would be also safe. Therefore, while I can ~freely advocate for -queer/trans/non-binary people in general, standing up for me/myself in +queer/trans/non-binary people in general, standing up for myself in particular might have unseen consequences. [7] In the unlikely event you meet someone and you use different grammatical gender for me, throw a game of -rock-paper-scissors or something. Or use your way. "Don't make trouble and -agree on something!" @@ -404,7 +407,7 @@ and I still keep finding new words and descriptions of gender experiences.<
[10] Asking this question is also insensitive and possibly actively harmful towards people who feel distressed by the mismatch between -their gender and genitalia. Just please don't ask this. - gender +
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Hell yeah, a coming out!
Important: Please, read this article in full and do not just skim it. There is no TL;DR, I don't think any reasonable summary of this post can be made without me misrepresenting myself. Alternatively, please just skip this article -altogether – I am fine with people not knowing these details about me. Thank -you a lot!
+altogether – I am fine with people not knowing these details about me and not +acting upon them. Thank you a lot! (The way of interacting with me changes only +a little, if at all, but I care a lot about how this fact about me is handled.)NB [1]: This is only about me at this time. My experiences are my own, please don't assume any of this applies to anybody else – while it might, there are a lot of other agender experiences that are quite different from mine and @@ -79,8 +81,8 @@ wrong feels weirder), thanks.
Also, my own identity and feelings may change in the future (as they certainly have in the past), so while I'll try to add an obsoletion banner to the top of this article when/if that happens, if you think I'm inconsistent with what I -have written here, please also ask.
-This is a quite general post, I would like to write separate articles going +have written here, please also ask me about that.
+This is a rather general post, I would like to write separate articles going into more detail. I'll add them here, but before I do that, feel free to ask me [2].
So, let's get into my gender!
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Important disclaimer: Especially this section only talks about me, other agender people may feel differently. Do not assume anything about other -agender people from this!
+(agender) people from this!Language
The first thing that comes to mind is the language. In general, I don't like @@ -136,7 +138,7 @@ harm than without the table. Sorry. (It's like four paragraphs anyway, so…) --
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I am not completely out yet – in fact, sharing with "whoever on the internet actually cares about me enough to read my blog" currently seems like one of the -safer ways currently. So while me being agender is not a secret anymore, I +safer ways. So while me being agender is not a secret anymore, I wouldn't like it to be the "gossip of the day" either (it's not a good talking point and I am giving way too litle detail here for anyone to be able to represent me accurately anyway). Don't out me just because you can [4].
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feels. They are useful to relate to others and in communicating, but almost never give full information themselves. Some are umbrella terms for many experiences, which may have their own label; however, -this does not mean that by using the sublabel one also identifies with the +this does not mean that by using a sublabel one also identifies with the umbrella term which the sublabel is canonicaly part of. It is up to the person themself to determine which labels they want to use, labeling others against their will is inappropriate/rude. Sublabels that are not widely known @@ -249,7 +251,7 @@ assigned at birth.My gender labels
(Not general anymore, this is solely about me again.)
I use the following labels to describe my experience with gender to most -people: agender, genderless (synonymous definition to agender), non-binary, +people: agender, genderless (synonymous in definition to agender), non-binary, enby. My microlabels are out of scope of this post (to keep it short and not give undefined words).
The label "genderqueer" somewhat describes my experience, but I don't use it – @@ -271,27 +273,28 @@ gender-nonconforming, genderfluid.
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-I guess people will ask, so let me just put some answers here in advance :-)
+I guess people will ask, so let me just put down some answers here in advance :-)
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